BEYOND RESOLUTIONS

Reflection, Intention, and Recommitting to Yourself

Every January, the world rushes to reinvent itself. Gyms fill up, planners overflow, and we’re told to start over, to fix, improve, and perfect. But what if you didn’t need to start over at all? What if this year, you began by slowing down, looking inward, and reconnecting with yourself instead?

Resolutions often fade because they’re born from self-criticism or comparison. But real, lasting growth comes from awareness, intention, and compassion. It's that quiet kind of motivation that grows stronger and stronger.

So rather than making another list of “shoulds,” let’s begin the year differently and start with reflection, intention, and a renewed commitment to yourself.

Reflect, Don't Reset

Before you move forward this year, take a moment to gently look back. Not to replay mistakes or regrets but to be curious about how far you’ve come in the last year and what you've learned along the way.

Let's face it, most of us have already mastered looking back and criticizing ourselves for what we didn't do "right." So as you step into reflecting, take time to remind yourself to let go of judgements. Let this be an honest pause to gather the wisdom that came from both your wins and your challenges in order to understand what worked and perhaps see what drained you too.

Think about the lessons you learned last year, the challenges that shaped you, and the small moments that revealed your strength. Reflection brings clarity. It shows you what deserves more of your energy and what you can gently let go of.

🫸A Note from My Own Reflection

One year ago in January, I tried something new.

I wrote a letter to my future self as a reminder of how busy and full December had been (because every January I ended up regretting something and I wanted the next year to be better). Yes, I've done letters to my future self before but only as a way to dream a little or put a wish down on paper but never as a way to remind myself of what I didn't want again. I wanted to capture the truth of what December really looked like for me because my brain (and most everyone's brain really) has a way of softening memories. They forget the exhaustion, the overwhelm, the endless to-do lists and make it seem like it was all easier than it was.

When I read that letter in December, it stopped me in my tracks.

It brought me right back to how tired I felt and worried that I couldn't get it all done. I had totally forgotten how hard that month was! There were plenty of happy memories but there was also a slippery slope where everything went from ok to a little worse each week until I couldn't remember if I was on 🍪cookie number three or cookie number… well, 🤷‍♀️.

That simple letter helped me make more intentional choices this year. It nudged me to protect my energy, to slow down sooner, and to remember that peace isn’t found in doing one more thing or in another cookie even if it's my favorite, it’s found in doing what matters most.

Forget the Resolutions, Set Intentions Instead

Resolutions focus on what we do. Intentions focus on who we become.

An intention is a gentle guidepost that helps you align your energy and choices with your values. Instead of chasing a specific outcome, you’re creating space for a feeling or mindset to grow.

Maybe your intention this year is peace, connection, or confidence. You can return to it daily — in your choices, your self-talk, and your boundaries.

For instance, when faced with a challenging decision, you can ask yourself how your choice aligns with your intention of peace.

If the challenge is causing agitation, confusion or other negative emotion, what else might this be trying to tell you?

Perhaps that means:

-something is more complex than you want to deal with

-you don't like any of the choices and need more information

-you are abandoning yourself in the choice

When you bring clarity to the negative feelings, your intentions become a living part of your daily life, shaping your experiences and guiding you toward a more intentional and fulfilling year ahead.

Recommit To Yourself

This is your gentle reminder that you don't have to "fix" yourself or start over this year!

You only have to come back home to yourself.

Recommitment is an act of love and a promise to honor your needs, your limits, and your dreams. It’s noticing when you’ve drifted from self-care and choosing to return, without shame.

💭 Journal Prompt: What part of myself have I been neglecting that’s ready for my attention again? How can I show up for myself with more care this year?

Recommitting to yourself might look like taking more pauses, saying yes to help, or simply treating yourself with the same kindness you offer others.

You don't need to reinvent yourself this year.

You just need to remember yourself and leave room for flexibility and grace. And perhaps, look at what is long overdue to let go of so you can feel lighter.

And if you’re tired of doing all the emotional heavy lifting on your own—this is exactly the kind of thing I help my clients with.

You don’t have to power through.

You can pause, process, and still rise stronger.

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